Conflict
Siblings
Sibling Peace Plan
The rules of the sibling crew, decided together — plus the steps for disputes.
Calm-Down Plan
What to do when anger rises: a plan made in advance, with your child.
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Refereeing every fight makes you a full-time judge; ignoring them lets the strongest win. This plan sets up the third way: shared rules the kids wrote themselves, and a mediation path for when things heat up.
What's inside
- A sibling house-rules poster the kids fill in themselves
- The 5-step parent-mediator script
- "Fair for both" solution cards
- A red-line reminder: safety first, always
How to use it
Write the rules with all siblings at once — their words, posted at their height
When a fight starts, run the 5 steps: each side heard, no interrupting
Let them propose the fix: kids invent fairer solutions than referees do
Why it works
Every FamilyDecode planner follows the same principle: decide once, calmly, together — then let the printed page do the daily reminding. Because your child helped build it, the Sibling Peace Plan isn't one more parental instruction; it's their plan. And because it hangs where the action happens, it replaces repeated reminders with a simple glance. Families tell us the shift takes about two weeks: the first days you'll still prompt "check your plan", and then one evening, nobody needs to.
Make it stick
Start smaller than feels necessary, celebrate the check-marks more than the results, and bring this planner to your weekly family meeting for two minutes of adjustments. A plan that gets revised is a plan that survives; a plan carved in stone becomes wallpaper. If it stalls, shrink it — fewer steps, bigger wins — rather than abandoning it. This planner is the "Plan" step of the FamilyDecode Method; for the full picture, see our Positive Discipline & Emotions guide.
Frequently asked questions
A starter version lives in our free resource library, so you can test the method first. The complete kit — every version, the parent guide, and updates — is available in the shop.
This planner is designed for: Siblings. Where it matters, the kit includes separate versions for younger and older children.
Print-ready PDF, in both A4 and US Letter. Buy once, download instantly, and print unlimited copies for your own family.
Goes well with
Read Step in or let them work it out? — the article behind this planner — or browse the full planner library.
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